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‘The Hills’ Star Kristin Cavallari Shares What Keeps Her Marriage to NFL Player Jay Cutler Together

By JaVonni Brustow / Published on Sunday, 01 Jul 2018 12:00 PM / No Comments
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Krisin Cavallari was the quintessential “It” girl of the mid-2000s with Laguna Beach and The Hills reality shows and is back with her own show. Very Cavallari is a docuseries where cameras will “follow Kristin as she opens the flagship store and Nashville headquarters of her rapidly growing fashion and lifestyle brand Uncommon James“. It’s been 8 years since The Hills concluded and in that time frame she’s gotten married to NFL player Jay Cutler of the Miami Dolphins.

The two tied the not in 2013 and while 5 years may not seem like long to be married, it’s a century in Hollywood years. While speaking to US Weekly, she shared that the secret to staying together for so long is that in her words, “Jay and I have always had in our favor that we both travel, so we’re able to miss each other which truly I think is the secret. It’s the secret for us.”


Dean of the School of Health Sciences at Touro College and University, Louis H. Primavera agreed writing in Psychology Today saying “What’s most important is that spouses agree how much time they want together and apart. When handled correctly, each partner feels they’re getting their fair share. Here perceptions are more important than the actual number of hours. Even if couples spend very little time together or apart, the relationship is fine if that’s what they both want. If each partner has different perspectives, however, the amount of time together and apart can be a source of conflict. For some partners, too much together time can be suffocating, while for others too little can make them feel insecure and isolated.”

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What they find challenging is their “special” alone time when they do decide to get together and by special I’m sure you can get an idea what I’m talking about there. With 3 children under the age of 5 it can be a little challenging fit that time in. “I mean, the only alone time we really ever have is at night. You know, there’s like that hour and a half window from when the kids go to bed to when we go to bed. And sometimes we just lay in bed and talk,” Cavallari told Us. “You can’t really talk and connect during the day with the kids because they’re just, you know, they’re so demanding, and I say that in the best way possible. But it’s hard to just have a real conversation, so those nights. And then we do try to make date night a priority. But it’s hard unfortunately, it is. We have to work on it, like everybody else.”

Cutler isn’t one of those drop off the checkbook and run out to work type of dads. Cavallari reveals he’s quite involved in their children’s lives. “He’s a really great dad, he really is. I mean, he’s on the floor playing with the kids. He’s out there, you know, doing baseball. He’s very involved, very active,” she gushed. “I mean, I never have to think twice about leaving him alone with the kids, and that’s not always the case. So I know how lucky I am that he’s very involved.”

Another way to keep the marriage going strong is that when your spouse says they’re not comfortable with something, you listen. Cavallari said her husband is “very private” and because of that their relationship is not going to be the center of the show. The same goes for her children, Camden who’s 5, Jaxon 4, and daughter Saylor 2. They’re not going to be filmed at all. Can you blame her? We’ve all seen what fame does to children. Look at the Osbournes. We’re just glad to see Cavallari back on television and happy to see her doing so well in her relationship.

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And lastly, Kyle Sandilands of The Kyle And Jackie O Show told her Cavallari that he was considering an MTV reality show following him around but wasn’t sure because of the potential “invasion of privacy.” She responded saying ‘It’s actually not as [invasive] as people would think.’ While some shows like Jersey Shore had cameras on all the time, her camera crews were only around a “couple of times a week.” “You actually know exactly when the cameras are coming and when they’re leaving,” she explained. “There’s no hidden cameras in my house or anything like that. And so in that sense it’s very enjoyable.” The biggest tip she had for him was as she said, “if you can get that executive producer credit, that’s a game changer!” That’s how you make sure you aren’t embarrassed on national television. We’ve got to give it to Cavallari, she’s definitely a smart girl.

Glitzers, will you be tuning in to Very Cavallari to see Kristin when it airs this summer?

About JaVonni Brustow

Urban Conservative, Principal at VM3 Media, Co-Editor-in-Chief of and, Javonni Brustow is a Communications and Media Consultant in Washington, DC with a decade of experience as a seasoned concert producer, marketing expert and brand management expert with multiple news publications. He can be heard LIVE Sundays at 3pm on Popglitz Radio and is a regular on the 'Did She Say That' Breitbart Radio Show with Sonnie Johnson. Inquiries: